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The 5 Domains - 5 Gateways to Healing

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My path to emerging as my true self has involved focusing my attention on all aspects of myself, beyond simply my mental and physical health. Various spiritual and yogic traditions speak of the different ‘bodies’ that we have beyond our physical body, including the mental, emotional, energetic, pranic and spiritual bodies that correspond to layers in our auric field. And according to the Heart Math institute, our heart also has it’s own electromagnetic field.

Fascinating stuff, however being a neurodiverse Taurean this concept was a little difficult to get my head around.


Then, a few years ago I came across a wonderful teacher of evolutionary relating based in Australia. His name is Damien Bohler, and on his FAR course I learned about the 4 domains. He categorised these as;


Body ~ The domain of sensations

Heart ~ The domain of emotions and feelings

Mind ~ The domain of thoughts and meaning making

Soul ~ The domain of the witness, our sovereign self.


Bingo. The penny dropped.

From that moment, I adopted this term and you will often hear me speaking about ‘Domains’ in my sessions.


The word ‘Domains’ reminds me that each element is an intrinsic part of me and my lived experience on a daily basis. It is not something ‘out there’ in the realms of quantum physics.


In tantra we work primarily with three domains, the Heart, Sex and Spirit, And so, I added a fifth domain;


Sex ~ The domain of pleasure and expression.


Each domain has important lessons to teach us, and the skills we learn along the way build upon each other like layers, but all the layers are accessible and we can start wherever feels most accessible and comfortable.


What do our Domains want?


I believe that healing our domains is simply about giving each one what it wants, needs and desires. Over the last decade I have been exploring ways to do just that and these are a few things that I have found useful;


~ For our Body, the activation of our muscles and limbic system is fundamental. The Body desires movement.

We can explore this in an infinite number of ways. I enjoyed running for a time, paddleboarding, yoga, walking and breathwork. I now do daily stretches and dance often.


When the domain of our body is brought online by movement, it creates relaxation and a calm, grounded feeling. It opens our energy channels or meridians and we are increasingly able to connect with our body and feel our internal experience rather than living in a state of detachment from it. As more energy flows, the transformational healing begins.


~ For our Mind the ability to process our experiences is important. The Mind desires order and space.

A cluttered mind is like an office where the filing cabinets have been emptied out and left all over the floor. I began my healing journey with Counselling which helped me to sort through all the past material and reorganise it, filing it away in its proper place.

I enjoyed creating more space in my mind by meditation and walks in nature, along with reducing contact with people who added to my mental clutter.


By creating space in the mind we are able to see things with greater clarity. We may see links between our past experiences, helping us to understand and grow further, until we reach a point where we can tolerate greater external input without it creating a backlog. We learn to prioritise and discern what is important and what we can let go of.


~ Our Heart needs to feel connected to other living beings. The Heart desires to feel loved and valued.

I have enjoyed being part of various groups and communities over the last 10 years that have helped me to feel part of something bigger.


I began by joining a local theatre group, where I could meet new people and feel that my input was valued. I attended a women’s circle for several years where we could all share our emotions freely, no holes barred. I have explored some beautiful healing practices for couples to facilitate deeper connection, I learnt about Love Languages. Now I feel privileged to be able to open my heart and serve my clients on a daily basis, as well as exploring deeper spiritual mysteries with a few trusted friends.


When our heart is open we become a powerful magnetic force for attracting all that we wish to manifest in our reality. Opportunities become abundant and we feel at home in our skin and at peace with the world.


~ Our Sexual domain needs to express itself. Period. The Sex desires pleasure and fulfillment.

However that looks for you, there are an infinite number of ways to feel pleasure and fulfilment but the important thing is to tune into your authentic desires.


As with Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, these domains are layered and often when one or more of other domains are not bring attended to, the sexual domain is the one that shuts down.


I have explored many teachings and courses in tantra and conscious sexuality and have slowly worked to clear away the conditioning from society, religion and my upbringing about what is acceptable and how we ‘should’ relate with our intimate partners.

Healing this domain has looked a lot like throwing everything I thought I knew about myself and my past relationships up in the air and starting again from scratch. I have learnt what I have to offer in relationships, what I desire from a partner, how to stimulate my mind, heart, body and spirit and how to create safety with a partner.


When our Sexual life force is flowing, we give ourselves permission to be our authentic selves, to follow the energy we feel and to explore even more pleasure.


~ For the Spirit, connection to the divine is important. Our Spirit desires to understand our place in the universe and our life’s purpose.

I was fascinated by astrology from a young age, and began reading tarot cards for myself aged 18. Over the last decade these interests have grown and I have enjoyed exploring crystal healing, angelic connection, Reiki, shamanic and past-life healing and learning how to open up my intuition and receive support from spirit guides.


Working on each of the domains can reunite us with parts of ourselves that have been exiled for many years, and even many lifetimes. By focusing on the domain of spirit in particular, we can heal deep soul wounds and past life challenges that are impacting us in this lifetime. 


When we focus on the soul we gain perspective, we truly know who we are at a soul level, we connect with our soul purpose and we make conscious choices that are aligned with this vision.


This may sound like a lot of work, but do not be disheartened.


The best part about healing our domains, is that any time we heal something in one domain this ripples out and creates change throughout our whole system - across all our domains. And by focusing on several at once the potential for healing is exponential!



In practice;

In a session with me we may be focusing on the body, and cultivating your ability to feel your internal experience and sensations. Many times in a session I will ask the question, ‘What re you Noticing’, to prompt you to do just that.


We may focus on your mind, unravelling the stories you tell yourself or the stories you have been told that have conditioned you to behave in certain ways to allow you to move forward with greater freedom.


We may focus on your heart, allowing it to open and accept unconditional love and warmth from a pure heart.


We may focus on your sex, allowing yourself to express what you truly want and feel even more pleasure.


We may focus on your connection to spirit, your divine self that has lived many lifetimes and has deep wisdom to share if you are open to listening.


If we have had a session together do not be surprised if, in my follow up email, I ask you to reflect on any changes that have occurred in your physical, mental, emotional, sexual or spiritual domains.


  • A Sensual massage, may bring emotions to the surface as well as long repressed desire.

  • Crystal Bodywork may cause a release that brings relief for a physical ailment or trigger a memory from childhood and bring up waves of emotions.

  • Learning about the Wheel of Consent in a Sexual Healing session may unlock a deeper understanding in your mind, bringing awareness to past situations or current challenges.

  • Counselling may leave you feeling more open hearted, perhaps giving you a spring in your step and ease in your body.


Whatever we are exploring, everything that I do is designed to bring healing to your heart and soul. This is the unique magic that is unquantifiable and flows from one being to another where a safe space is created for healing.

I use my spiritual intuition with clients as to which domain to being with, and I find it helpful to work fluidly. I draw on different things from my healing toolkit to bring you just what you need in each moment.


Along my path, I have intuitively been guided to certain teachings and technologies when I was seeking healing for each of my domains, but many of these work on multiple domains at once - this is why I call my therapy Holistic. 


For me transformational healing, is healing that focuses on all of our domains.

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I offer person-centred counselling, bodywork, massage, Reiki and tantra massage from my home in Congleton Cheshire.

I work with individuals and couples who want to reconnect with their life force energy, to open to new possibilities of sexual pleasure and learn ways of using pleasure for growth and healing of themselves, each other and the planet. 

I offer readings and past life regressions and enjoy supporting others who are on a spiritual journey of self discovery. 

All my sessions support with personal growth and recovery from old patterns of behaviour, childhood conditioning and unhealthy relationship dynamics. Once we shed light on these we can find freedom and step into a life with more connection, belonging and fulfilment than you ever dreamed possible. 

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